This next question is a great one.
I really like this one.
Is it yours?
No.
So a lot of people are wondering, like,
how you guys met and what made you guys fall in love
with each other.
I'll defer to Sister Bednar.
Yes, because I'll tell it the right way.
We were students at BYU and met as students.
In fact, it was interesting that we met in a family home evening
activity.
We were divided up into groups in our ward
at Brigham Young University, and we had a home evening activity,
and that's where I met him.
So it was a wonderful beginning.
But we didn't just fall in love at first sight.
And many people think that's how it's done--that you just look
at someone and you know that they're right one,
that you're going to fall in love and get married.
But it took some time.
So I encourage you to not just go
on a date with someone one time and say, "Well,
that person's not for me."
And I think Elder Bednar and I would both agree
that people don't fall in love, but you pick someone
with whom you can create the love that you desire.
So we've spent 40 years of being married and creating that love,
and I can honestly say that we're more in love today
than we were 40 years ago.
Now, 40 years to you sounds like a long, long time, and it is.
But it is just wonderful.
We celebrated, just about six weeks ago,
our 40th wedding anniversary.
And it's been a wonderful 40 years
of learning and growing and becoming
complementary to each other and letting our differences
work together, because men and women are
different in many, many ways.
But it's been wonderful as we've tried
to let those unique characteristics
that each one of us has build a wonderful and lasting
relationship that will endure not only time but eternity.
The word love is both a verb and a noun.
And I think sometimes we think, "Well, I
have to have the feeling, the noun, before I
start doing love, the verb."
It works both ways.
Now, I don't want this to sound unromantic,
but the feeling follows love, the verb.
And so we find young people all over the world
who think, "Well, I have to find the one and true and only."
And more correctly, you have to become
the one and true and only through what you do
and what you become.
So when she said, "You don't just fall in love,"
that doesn't just happen.
You don't just sit around and wait for that to occur.
You engage in love, the verb.
And then love, the noun, the emotion and the feeling,
is just remarkable.
So I think you create it; you don't find it.